I appreciate all types of people. Because I believe that God has created all different types of people that believe in different things. . .yadda yadda yadda , you get the point.
I also believe that God has blessed most of us with common sense as well as instincts. Why is it that some people choose to ignore these two life saving, stress reducing and practical tools that God has given us?
I can see if you had a messed up life, if you didn't have proper guidance growing up or there were some events that really screwed up your perception but what about if you have lived a normal happy life with a good family and support system, access to a good education etc.? Why do some ignore the reality of a situation and others embrace the realness of life?
I am not saying to not think outside the box and not to dream because these things are very important as well. We would be nothing as a people of it were not for imagination. However, I think that you should view life with more of a balance. With your head towards the sky but at least one foot on the ground becasue when you get down it we all exisit on the same place in the same world in some form of society. Live your dreams but realize that you must live in the real world as well. Not following? here are a few examples:
Girl been treated bad by boys. Girl meets new boy. This boy kinda unattractive but very nice so girl moves to new country and stays with boy. Girl realizes boy doesn't like to work so she must support boy. Time rough but boy convinces girl- over and over again- that this is right becasue its love. Girl grows deeper in debt and more lonely becasue she cannot bring herself to lose the security of not being "alone," and justifies that its okay becasue at least he does not cheat on her.
Boy meets girl. They move in fast. Claim love. Have baby even faster. She cuts him off from freinds and family. She drains boy of his fun, life and money. But its all good cuz "thats what marriage is. You gotta make sacrifices."
Boy been living off girl for a long time. Girl finally gets fed up kicks boy out and he has to go live somewhere else. Instead of going to parents house chooses to crash on couches and be homeless. Will prove to the world that she didn't understand him and that he is the victim.
What is wrong with these pictures?!?! People allow themselves to lose their way becasue they give way to their own insecurities, laziness and ego. Shit happens. Face the world, work with your reality, and keep it moving!
Monday, June 8, 2009
Pretty on Steroids
We see them all around, usually when we are in our 20's , up in the club, on videos or things like that. Sometimes thought we meet them in real life. I am talking about women who are pretty, and i mean unquestionably pretty, and they have their hair done, tips on their nails, boobs pushed up, tight dress hugging the curves, colored contacts, and perhaps even injections and implants here and there- depends on the woman. I see these woman and of course I think- wow they are pretty, but i can't help but wonder what they would look like if they took off the fake nails,didn't wear the lashes, etc. Most times I come to the conclusion that this woman would still be pretty without all that stuff. So why the need for all the extra fluff? Its like overkill and leaves me thinking "do you ever take a day off?"
When women take "pretty" to this extreme I call it pretty on steroids. ALL of their natural beauty is enhanced but in a very obvious way. I am all for enhncement of what you already have. I wear makeup everyday- but you can't tell. I work out and eat well- but i don't deprive myself. I do my hair, but don't feel the need for extensions and frequent visits to the salon to keep up with all the other women out there. I have small lips but will not go so far as lip injections. Usually when you get work done thats exaclty what your face looks like- that you have had work done. What it comes down to is that if you feel the need to do all that extra crap to your appearance it doesn't matter if the rest of the world sees you as pretty or not becasue you obviously do not see yourself that way. If you find yourself spending hundreds and hundreds of dollars each month just to "look good," you need to reevaluate why you want to change all these things about yourself. All the the botox, push up and skin tight clothes in the world is not a substitute for real confidence or real self esteem.
When women take "pretty" to this extreme I call it pretty on steroids. ALL of their natural beauty is enhanced but in a very obvious way. I am all for enhncement of what you already have. I wear makeup everyday- but you can't tell. I work out and eat well- but i don't deprive myself. I do my hair, but don't feel the need for extensions and frequent visits to the salon to keep up with all the other women out there. I have small lips but will not go so far as lip injections. Usually when you get work done thats exaclty what your face looks like- that you have had work done. What it comes down to is that if you feel the need to do all that extra crap to your appearance it doesn't matter if the rest of the world sees you as pretty or not becasue you obviously do not see yourself that way. If you find yourself spending hundreds and hundreds of dollars each month just to "look good," you need to reevaluate why you want to change all these things about yourself. All the the botox, push up and skin tight clothes in the world is not a substitute for real confidence or real self esteem.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
The Return of Saturn
This has been a reoccurring theme as of late because I am I fact turning 30 this year and also getting married. The return of Saturn is defined as “an astrological phenomenon that occurs at the ages of 27-30, 58-60, and finally from 86-88, coinciding with the time it takes the planet Saturn to make one orbit around the sun. It is believed by astrologers that as Saturn "returns" to the degree in which it occupied at the time of birth -- approximately every 29.5 years -- a person crosses over a major threshold and into the next stage of life.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saturn_return.
Take heed of this information. I realize that not everyone believes in astrology but I however do not believe in coincidences. There is to much relevancy to this asrtological phenomenon. The problem is that some people still tend to be so conveluded in their judgement and self realization that they still think they are doing the right thing. If you are worse off today then you were at the beginning of your 29 year point then you have not clearly assessed your life. Just because you may have changed one thing- job or location or something like that, have you really changed your bad habits? You know, those things we do that lead us to the same frustration and misery. Are you still letting others (men/women) manipulate you? Are you still trying to fix damaged people? Are still going against your better judgement just to not make others upset? These are the structures your life has been built upon so far and if these strucutres are unsound and not leading you to a place of joy and fullfillment then you are doing something wrong! I have said it a million times before but you are the one who makes or breaks your life. You for the most part can control your own happiness. The hard part is realizing that your operating system, which you are so comfortable with, may need to be changed. But once you realize it and jump in with both feet the rewards are much greater. You no longer have to make excuses for your behavior or that of others. Isn’t that liberating?
Take heed of this information. I realize that not everyone believes in astrology but I however do not believe in coincidences. There is to much relevancy to this asrtological phenomenon. The problem is that some people still tend to be so conveluded in their judgement and self realization that they still think they are doing the right thing. If you are worse off today then you were at the beginning of your 29 year point then you have not clearly assessed your life. Just because you may have changed one thing- job or location or something like that, have you really changed your bad habits? You know, those things we do that lead us to the same frustration and misery. Are you still letting others (men/women) manipulate you? Are you still trying to fix damaged people? Are still going against your better judgement just to not make others upset? These are the structures your life has been built upon so far and if these strucutres are unsound and not leading you to a place of joy and fullfillment then you are doing something wrong! I have said it a million times before but you are the one who makes or breaks your life. You for the most part can control your own happiness. The hard part is realizing that your operating system, which you are so comfortable with, may need to be changed. But once you realize it and jump in with both feet the rewards are much greater. You no longer have to make excuses for your behavior or that of others. Isn’t that liberating?
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
If I Wanted To
As I peruse the newest obsession maker, facebook, I come across an old coworkers profile. A friend of mine for a spell for sure. In case you are not familiar with the facebook process, it feels the need to update everyone on your friends list of everything you have done up to the last minute. If you took a sh@$, threw a snowball, listened to music. Everything. One of these updates includes pictures.
So she has updated her pics and posted many photos of her at the school we used to work at together. It made me miss the school slightly. It was very neat, organized and what not, but i definitely would never want to work there again. You see, they are in fact, kind of an undercover Scientology school and I am not kidding when I tell you they tried to brainwash me.
So I am looking at all the pics and all I can think to myself is "(Enter school name here) for life man!!!" These people suck you in and trust me when I tell you that they do not let go easily. I didn't' know if it's because they feel like failures inside when they can't get someone to commit or if it is because they are afraid of being exposed. At any rate it made me think of what my life would have been like had i not "defected" from the "group."
If I wanted to be POOR and get the equivalent of dirt in an envelope once a month I could have stayed there. If i wanted to work with a 104 fever and have no health insurance and no one to cover my class while i was dying, I could have stayed there. If I wanted to be berated ("slut, whore etc!") during "drills" that were designed to make me desensitized to the distractions and annoyances, so that i can "confront" anything head on, I could have stayed there.
If I wanted to be told how to dress, inside and outside of school, how and what to talk about with others in the "group," and have every conversation on the school phone listened in on, I would have stayed there.
In essence, even if i wanted to go back to the school to see the progress of the amazing students there, the innocent brilliant lives that they, in my opnion, isolate and manipulate, I couldn't because it is not a free zone for me. I am sure they have me on some kind of list as a "suppressive person" (these lists really do exist).
What is funny is that the year after I left my class's new teacher contacted me and asked me how to get the kids to stop talking about me. "Well Ms. V didn't do it that way- or Lets play the game from Ms. V's class, or lets dance instead of gym!" She asked if it was okay for me to write them a goodbye note and for them to send me one as well. I had no problem with that. That was the least I could do for them if it was hard for them to let go. Those kids will forever remain in my heart and to tell you the truth if the school administrators weren't so obsessed into turning me into one of them I would have stayed longer.
In the end I made the best decision for me, and thats all anyone can do. I miss the school grounds, the kids and the families but in truth my time in that city was up anyway.
And at least I know now why Tom Cruise is so weird.
So she has updated her pics and posted many photos of her at the school we used to work at together. It made me miss the school slightly. It was very neat, organized and what not, but i definitely would never want to work there again. You see, they are in fact, kind of an undercover Scientology school and I am not kidding when I tell you they tried to brainwash me.
So I am looking at all the pics and all I can think to myself is "(Enter school name here) for life man!!!" These people suck you in and trust me when I tell you that they do not let go easily. I didn't' know if it's because they feel like failures inside when they can't get someone to commit or if it is because they are afraid of being exposed. At any rate it made me think of what my life would have been like had i not "defected" from the "group."
If I wanted to be POOR and get the equivalent of dirt in an envelope once a month I could have stayed there. If i wanted to work with a 104 fever and have no health insurance and no one to cover my class while i was dying, I could have stayed there. If I wanted to be berated ("slut, whore etc!") during "drills" that were designed to make me desensitized to the distractions and annoyances, so that i can "confront" anything head on, I could have stayed there.
If I wanted to be told how to dress, inside and outside of school, how and what to talk about with others in the "group," and have every conversation on the school phone listened in on, I would have stayed there.
In essence, even if i wanted to go back to the school to see the progress of the amazing students there, the innocent brilliant lives that they, in my opnion, isolate and manipulate, I couldn't because it is not a free zone for me. I am sure they have me on some kind of list as a "suppressive person" (these lists really do exist).
What is funny is that the year after I left my class's new teacher contacted me and asked me how to get the kids to stop talking about me. "Well Ms. V didn't do it that way- or Lets play the game from Ms. V's class, or lets dance instead of gym!" She asked if it was okay for me to write them a goodbye note and for them to send me one as well. I had no problem with that. That was the least I could do for them if it was hard for them to let go. Those kids will forever remain in my heart and to tell you the truth if the school administrators weren't so obsessed into turning me into one of them I would have stayed longer.
In the end I made the best decision for me, and thats all anyone can do. I miss the school grounds, the kids and the families but in truth my time in that city was up anyway.
And at least I know now why Tom Cruise is so weird.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
I'm Over It
One of the things i love to do most in NYC is people watch. That's part of the reason I don't mind taking the train all the time and walking from school to school for my job. I think that there is no other place in the world like NYC and one of my favorite things i love about his place is the fashion forwardness if you will. That being said, i need to address some thing I have been noticing and trends that are in my opinion - defunct.
Uggs- The boot Uggs. The camel ones. Sooooooo over it. Wake up people, you just spent 130 on a pair of fuzzy lined boots that you can't even wear when it snows. Everyone and their mother has them and they are PLAYED OUT. Put them away. Give them away, throw them away. I don't care what you do with them really but they were not very cute when they first came out and they still aren't. They are reminiscent of camel feet, which leads people to think of camel toe, and ladies- you don't want to be associated with that!
The Faux Hawk hair bump thing- If they start making infomercials on how you can create it " fast and easy, and you get two more free if you order now!" using some plastic thing, the trend is over. First of all this hairstyle is not for everyone, lets be real. if you have a five head, or long face, its gonna be a no on the faux hawk bump. Yes I have been guilty of rocking it once or twice but it was because i was in a bind and i was growing out my blunt cut bangs. . .which by the way are on their way out too. . .Tyra wore those things to death. . .Anyway, as a general principle if everyone is doing/wearing it, it gets old fast. I am so disappointed- this is NY, where is the creativity? I am ready for something new!
Ballet flats. Over 'em. Personally they kill my feet because of the lack of support and again everyone has them. They are only good for work. There are much cuter flat shoes coming out that aren't quite "ballet" style and you best believe I am going to snatch up the pair I saw last night on my way home as soon as I get my spring/summer money together.
That's all for now!
xoxo
GG
Uggs- The boot Uggs. The camel ones. Sooooooo over it. Wake up people, you just spent 130 on a pair of fuzzy lined boots that you can't even wear when it snows. Everyone and their mother has them and they are PLAYED OUT. Put them away. Give them away, throw them away. I don't care what you do with them really but they were not very cute when they first came out and they still aren't. They are reminiscent of camel feet, which leads people to think of camel toe, and ladies- you don't want to be associated with that!
The Faux Hawk hair bump thing- If they start making infomercials on how you can create it " fast and easy, and you get two more free if you order now!" using some plastic thing, the trend is over. First of all this hairstyle is not for everyone, lets be real. if you have a five head, or long face, its gonna be a no on the faux hawk bump. Yes I have been guilty of rocking it once or twice but it was because i was in a bind and i was growing out my blunt cut bangs. . .which by the way are on their way out too. . .Tyra wore those things to death. . .Anyway, as a general principle if everyone is doing/wearing it, it gets old fast. I am so disappointed- this is NY, where is the creativity? I am ready for something new!
Ballet flats. Over 'em. Personally they kill my feet because of the lack of support and again everyone has them. They are only good for work. There are much cuter flat shoes coming out that aren't quite "ballet" style and you best believe I am going to snatch up the pair I saw last night on my way home as soon as I get my spring/summer money together.
That's all for now!
xoxo
GG
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Liar Liar
If you have to spin a story so that you don't look like an asshole, then you're a liar. If you have to embellish parts or leave them out to save face, you're a liar. If you tell one person one thing and another person a different version of that, then you're a liar.
If you have to lie about anything then there is something wrong. What is it you are not proud of? What are you holding back? The fact that other people will think of you a certain way? Well believe me that if you have a lying personality then people already know you are full of shit, especially if they have been around you enough. When you notice that people around you are listening to your crap and just nodding their head and smiling, the jig is up. You have put yourself into the place that only liars know. Its a lonely place and the only way to get out is to come clean with yourself. The only problem is that you are so used to lying to everyone, including yourself that this is now your reality. You have begun to believe the crap that you spew to everyone, so what do you do? You go and find "new" friends that don't realize you are a liar yet, but inevitably you will be found out yet perpetuating the cycle. Good luck with that.
Being honest is not always easy but take it from me, it sure feels good. To be honest with yourself and others is a way to destress the bad energy that others try and put on to you. I am not saying you have to yell in their face about what a liar they are (for instance), but you can just say "whatever. I will believe what you are saying when I see a change in your actions." That's all. Usually these people will find the newbie friends that i mentioned before but when your at that point, who cares anyway.
If you have to lie about anything then there is something wrong. What is it you are not proud of? What are you holding back? The fact that other people will think of you a certain way? Well believe me that if you have a lying personality then people already know you are full of shit, especially if they have been around you enough. When you notice that people around you are listening to your crap and just nodding their head and smiling, the jig is up. You have put yourself into the place that only liars know. Its a lonely place and the only way to get out is to come clean with yourself. The only problem is that you are so used to lying to everyone, including yourself that this is now your reality. You have begun to believe the crap that you spew to everyone, so what do you do? You go and find "new" friends that don't realize you are a liar yet, but inevitably you will be found out yet perpetuating the cycle. Good luck with that.
Being honest is not always easy but take it from me, it sure feels good. To be honest with yourself and others is a way to destress the bad energy that others try and put on to you. I am not saying you have to yell in their face about what a liar they are (for instance), but you can just say "whatever. I will believe what you are saying when I see a change in your actions." That's all. Usually these people will find the newbie friends that i mentioned before but when your at that point, who cares anyway.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Sister Sister
I know that Sex and The City gets a lot of slack but there are plenty of reasons- small and big (no pun intended) to love it. I was just watching the episode where Carrie’s computer crashes and Miranda’s mom dies after a heart attack. In the hospital Miranda sister walks by and tells her not to use her cell phone. Who new that Miranda had a sister? I never realized until today. And then I thought – she has a sister but Carrie and the girls are like her REAL sisters. And then I thought- damn can women have relationships like that with each other- I mean for real?
The answer I believe is yes. Absolutely. But I don’t think you get four of those friends in your life. At least not all at one time. I have many friends but very few sisters. And they way it happens on the show- the women all knowing each other and being friends like that is definitely not the case in real life. Carrie was ready to jump on a train and be by Miranda’s side in the hospital. You are lucky if you get one friend who just has your back like that. Anyway the point is not the amount you have or if they all are friends with each other, the point is to recognize when you have sisters- and I mean real sisters. Not call you once every 6 month sisters, or call when shit is just hunky dory and then when they got man trouble they call, or we just get together for major events sisters. I mean the ones that call you just to tell you the dumb shit they saw on the street or TV. The ones that are straight up with you and don’t avoid bochinche (juicy gossip)- cuz shit, what the hell are your sisters for if you can’t TALK to them. These are people you feel 100% comfortable with and your heart would break into a million pieces if they were gone from your life. THOSE are your real people.
The answer I believe is yes. Absolutely. But I don’t think you get four of those friends in your life. At least not all at one time. I have many friends but very few sisters. And they way it happens on the show- the women all knowing each other and being friends like that is definitely not the case in real life. Carrie was ready to jump on a train and be by Miranda’s side in the hospital. You are lucky if you get one friend who just has your back like that. Anyway the point is not the amount you have or if they all are friends with each other, the point is to recognize when you have sisters- and I mean real sisters. Not call you once every 6 month sisters, or call when shit is just hunky dory and then when they got man trouble they call, or we just get together for major events sisters. I mean the ones that call you just to tell you the dumb shit they saw on the street or TV. The ones that are straight up with you and don’t avoid bochinche (juicy gossip)- cuz shit, what the hell are your sisters for if you can’t TALK to them. These are people you feel 100% comfortable with and your heart would break into a million pieces if they were gone from your life. THOSE are your real people.
Not everyone can be your bestest friend in the whole world, that’s just the way life is and that’s why the sister friends are so special. All I know is I appreciate my sisters!! Now go call your best friend sister person and go gossip about something .
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